Hello, my name is Tari

and I am your  Closeness Coach


San Diego's #1 Rated Sex, Intimacy and Relationship Coach

Just the right blend of professional and classy

When you're sharing the most intimate details of your life with someone, you want them to be sensitive yet decisive, intuitive yet direct, and constructive but not intrusive. I've spent a lifetime becoming that person and I aim to be the most present, aware and knowledgable man for all your intimate challenges and curiosities.

More than just intimacy

Much, much more. I am a sexual translator who can tune into what your partner is feeling and thinking. I specialize in gently breaking through stuck energy, creating and building attraction, building chemistry, healing old wounds, letting go of the past, forgiveness, trust, understanding, creating systems that work in your relationship, non-violent communication, cooking and fine dining, unusual date ideas, multiple languages, world travel, living in foreign countries and... acrobatics.

If you don't know where to start, start here.

Closeness Clients often report that after 1-4 visits, their sex, intimate or love life dramatically shifts for the better! Depending on your receptivity and openness to my style of coaching you will be taken aback by what can be unlocked and accomplished within a few hours.

Feel a little pent up with resentment or stress?

I know. That's the first thing we'll unravel, so that you can actually relax and feel understood. We don't need to "jump right to the sex stuff." You need to be heard, and feel like your partner is on your team. I'm an expert communicator and can often speak what your partner may not be able to say. Or, they may finally hear it from me in a way that lands - even if you've been telling them and telling them... but now we can do something about it.


Over 200,000 people listen to the CLOSENESS PODCAST

Navigate the most difficult intimate subjects with your partner simply by listening to the Closeness podcast and applying it. Sizzling hot subject matter, thoughtful “how to” episodes on: kissing, touching, having sex, going down and more.  Provocative interviews, navigating breakups, understanding infidelity, self care practices and more.  Scroll down to select where you want to listen and subscribe.  

REMEMBER HOW to have hot, electric sex

Tasteful, world-class, no-nonsense intimacy coaching.  Speak your mind freely in session knowing that your coach has an extraordinary amount of warmth and experience with what you are personally going through.  Whether you’re single, in partnership, poly or monogamous, I can help move you towards the kind of  you toward where you want to be

It's fun to come together

IIf you have a partner, coming to sessions as a couple is the most powerful way to create change.  Often couples love each other tremendously and are best friends, but the idea of sex or even talking about it has become extremely uncomfortable.  Learn why and what you can do about it.  Become more sexually confident together as we create a safe space for fun, real-time exercises to get you closer.  Discover vulnerability you didn’t know your partner had.  We can make lasting changes when both people are on board to come together.

Support through betrayal or cheating

At the basis of betrayal is a secret arrangement.  Discovering your partners secret or indiscretions can be the most devastating experience of your life.  I offer support through cheating and help you get through it all or, if you choose to remain together, I’ve got tools to make it work. Sometimes couple’s want to stay together and it is possible to succeed. I can help you get through one of the most treacherous chapters of your life so we can begin to infuse love, trust and intimacy back into the relationship. Or I can help you lovingly and safely part ways. The famous conscious uncoupling if you will. Whichever direction we go, I will help you regain your confidence.  

Are you single?

There’s no better time to work on yourself and find a partner who is truly aligned with who you are, than when you are single. All the questions you’ve ever wanted answered about sex await in our first session. Even if you’re in relationship, one-on-one sessions are a powerful way to refine your sexual desires, get clear on what’s important to you, and work through your feelings.  It’s also a great space to speak the things you haven’t told your partner and see how they land when you hear yourself saying them!   We can handle performance anxiety, understanding how to get wetter, difficulty maintaining or sustaining an erection, confidence issues, and more. 


While it’s true that sometimes we’re just not meant to be with someone, most couples who come in are able to find success, incorporate new ideas, and better understand each others love and sex languages. Depending on your ability to broaden your perspective   incorporate new tools in your life, most couples see success in as little as 1-4 sessions! 

(805) 427-3162

Closeness coaching

Real sexual guidance to help you and your partner get to a better and more passionate place.  Full support through navigating different sex drives, approaches, attachment styles, and different ways of becoming aroused. Learn to successfully navigate betrayal, breakups and misunderstandings.  Learn to have better sex as early as your first appointment.  In office, in home or virtual sessions available.  


Why I'm Different

If you have experienced traditional forms of therapy in San Diego, sex therapy, psychotherapy or marriage and family counseling before, you may have been left feeling a little frustrated in the sexual department.   As it turns out, many qualified therapists and sex therapists aren’t fully comfortable or at their best when it comes to diving into the nitty gritty details of your romantic sex life.  I receive constant feedback that an MFT’s advice was rather general, bland or that they were unable to get the spark back.  At Closeness, we can get right to the heart of the intimate subjects that are affecting your most, no matter how personal.  World class help from your Intimacy Advisor is safe, stress free and takes place in a beautiful, relaxing setting.