Hello, my name is Tari

and I am your  Closeness Coach


I am San Diego's #1 Rated intimacy and relationship coach

Just the right blend

When you're sharing the most intimate details of your life with someone, you want them to be sensitive yet decisive, intuitive yet direct, and constructive but not intrusive. I've spent a lifetime becoming that person. I strive to be the most present, up to date, knowledgable man for all your intimate needs and curiosities.

More than just intimacy

Much more. I specialize in organization, systems, communication, interior design, re-arranging your space, de-cluttering, cooking, fine dining, unusual date ideas, gourmet food preparation, multiple languages, world travel, living in foreign countries and of course, acrobatics.

"We haven't had sex in weeks or months and I don't know where to start..."

Closeness Clients often report that after 1-3 sessions, their sex life dramatically shifts for the better! Depending on your receptivity and openness to my style of coaching you will be blown away by what can be unlocked within a few hours.

"I have so much anger, stress and resentment built up I can't even think about sex right now..."

I know. That's the first thing we'll unravel. You need to be heard, understood and feel like your partner is on your team. I'm an exceptional sexual translator and can often speak what your partner may not be able to say. Or, they may finally hear it from me and do something about it.

Get a new perspective on life

Travel wisdom, healthy communication, navigating life with children


Over 100,000 people listen to the CLOSENESS PODCAST

Navigate the most difficult intimate subjects with your partner simply by listening to the Closeness podcast and applying it together, absolutely free. Sizzling hot subject matter, thoughtful “how to correctly… kiss, touch, go down,” provocative interviews, navigating breakups, understanding infidelity, self care practices and more.  Pick a platform below and subscribe, then contact me for your first session. 

REMEMBER HOW to have hot, electric sex

Tasteful, world-class, no-nonsense intimacy coaching.  Speak your mind freely in session knowing that your coach has an extraordinary amount of experience with what you are going through.  Whether you’re single, in partnership, poly or monogamous, I can move you toward where you want to be

It's fun to come together

Coming to sessions as a couple is a powerful way to create change.  Often couples love each other tremendously, but sex and even talking about it has all but vanished.  Learn why and what you can do about it.  Become more sexually confident together as we create a safe space for fun, real-time exercises to get you closer.  Discover vulnerability you didn’t know your partner had.  We can make lasting changes when both people are on board to come together.

Support through betrayal or cheating

At the basis of betrayal is a secretive arrangement.  Discovering your partners secret can be the most devastating experience of your life.  I can help you pull through or, if you choose to stay together, we can make it work. I don’t condone cheating, but sometimes couple’s want to stay together and it is possible. I can help you through one of the most treacherous chapters of your life so we can begin to infuse love, trust and sex back into the relationship. Or I can help you lovingly and safely move on. Whatever direction we take, I will help you regain your confidence.  

Are you single?

There’s no better time to work on yourself and find a partner who is truly aligned with who you are, than when you are single.  Even in relationship, one on one sessions are a powerful way to refine your sexual desires, get clear on what’s important to you and learn how to actually touch your partner or future partner in a way they will find exciting and arousing.  We can handle performance anxiety and master your inner psychology.  

Reimagining TRADITIONAL relationships and breakups

We never think a break up is in the cards. But it doesn’t have to be the devastating experience we make them out to be. My top priority is keeping you together if that’s what you both want. But I can also mediate a conscious uncoupling and translate in a way that won’t leave the other person feeling bitter and horrible. Breakups hurt, but they don’t have to be devastating.    

Closeness and Couple's Acrobatics

(805) 427-3162

Closeness coaching

Real sexual guidance to help you and your partner get to a better and more erotic place.  Full support through navigating different sex drives, approaches, attachment styles, and different ways of getting aroused. Learn to successfully navigate betrayal, breakups, misunderstandings. Most importantly, learn to have better sex immediately.  In office, in home or virtual sessions available.  


Why I'm Different

With your consent, I offer safe, real world demonstrations, guidance and support to help your partner initiate, advance and be more successful through all the stages of intimacy.  I help you immediately step back into your sexual roles, and articulate what you want, verbally and non verbally, from the very first session.