Hello, my name is Tari

and I am your  Closeness Coach


I'm a sex, intimacy, relationship and life coach who over-delivers on value, action, and sexual possibilities.

But we are already having great sex

You are having great sex this week, month or year. It's not like a diploma that lasts forever or never changes. No one received the book on how to have perfect sex for the rest of your life growing up. You don't know what you don't know and that means you often don't know what you're missing. If things are perfect in the sex department, let's get your ambitions, communication and organization skills, and dreams to start a new business off the ground.

Can you help me be an adult?

Yes actually. I specialize in organization, systems, communication, interior design, re-arranging your space, cleaning clutter, gourmet food preparation, languages, travel, living in foreign countries and acrobatics.

We haven't had sex in weeks, months, years... I don't know where to start...

Often clients report back that after 1-3 sessions, their sex life dramatically shifts for the better!

Honestly, I have so much anger, stress and resentment built up I can't even think about sex right now...

I know. That's the first thing we'll unravel. You need to be heard, understood and feel like your partner is going on your team. I'm an exceptional translator and can often speak clearly what your partner may have such a hard time telling you... or they may finally hear it from me and do something about it. We've got this.

Get a new perspective on life

Travel wisdom, healthy communication, navigating life with children

Over 70,000 people listen to the CLOSENESS PODCAST

Navigate the most difficult to discuss subjects with your partner or on your own simply by listening to the Closeness podcast. Sizzling hot subject matter, thoughtful how to’s navigating breakups, understanding infidelity, self care practices and more.  Pick a platform below and subscribe, then contact me for your first session. 

REMEMBER HOW to have hot, electric sex

Tasteful, world-class, no-nonsense sex and intimacy coaching.  Speak your mind freely in session knowing that your coach has a lot of experience with what you are going through.  Whether you’re single, in partnership, poly or monogamous, I can move you toward where you want to be

It's fun to come together

Coming to sessions as a couple is a powerful way to create change.  Often couples love each other tremendously, but sex and talking about what you want has all but vanished.  Learn why and what you can do about it today.  Become more sexually confident together as we create a safe space for fun games, real-time exercises to get you closer, and vulnerability you didn’t know your partner had.  We can make lasting changes when both people are on board to come together.

Support through betrayal or cheating

At the basis of betrayal is a secretive arrangement.  Discovering your partners secret can be the most devastating experience of your life.  I can help you pull through or, if you choose to stay together, we can make it work. I don’t condone cheating, but sometimes couple’s want to stay together and it is possible. I can help you through one of the most treacherous chapters of your life so we can begin to infuse love, trust and sex back into the relationship. Or I can help you lovingly and safely move on. Whatever direction we take, I will help you regain your confidence.  

Are you single?

There’s no better time to work on yourself and find a partner who is truly aligned with who you are, than when you are single.  Even in relationship, one on one sessions are a powerful way to refine your sexual desires, get clear on what’s important to you and learn how to actually touch your partner or future partner in a way they will find exciting and arousing.  We can handle performance anxiety and master your inner psychology.  

Reimagining TRADITIONAL relationships and breakups

We never think a break up is in the cards. But it doesn’t have to be the devastating experience we make them out to be. My top priority is keeping you together if that’s what you both want. But I can also mediate a conscious uncoupling and translate in a way that won’t leave the other person feeling bitter and horrible. Breakups hurt, but they don’t have to be devastating.   

Closeness and Couple's Acrobatics

(805) 427-3162

Closeness coaching

Real sexual guidance to help you and your partner get to a better and more erotic place.  Full support through navigating different sex drives, approaches, attachment styles, and different ways of getting aroused. Learn to successfully navigate betrayal, breakups, misunderstandings. Most importantly, learn to have better sex immediately.  In office, in home or virtual sessions available.  


Why I'm Different

With your consent, I offer safe, real world demonstrations, guidance and support to help your partner initiate, advance and be more successful through all the stages of intimacy.  I help you immediately step back into your sexual roles, and articulate what you want, verbally and non verbally, from the very first session.