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Get Closer in 3 steps:

Get un-stuck by filling out our intake form below and start with 1-3 incentivized Closeness Coaching sessions.
Get immediate results and apply new tools as early as the night of your first appointment with me.
Watch the work speak for itself and get more intimate with your partner. If you love the results, stay on board to go deeper.

How much does it cost?


Your first 1-2 visits are at a discounted rate.

$ 150
Per Session
  • Simply fill out an intake form to get started
  • No commitment, no obligation
  • Explore up to 3 sessions to see if we're a good fit
  • Pour this investment into your program if you wish to move forward

4 Month Program.

$ 800
Per Month - 4 month commitment
  • Text message and voice memo support throughout the week
  • 4 weekly visits. See results or shift in emotions in as little as one session
  • $400 off if you pay for all 4 months
  • Virtual or in house visits available*

Please, step into my office...

From the moment you walk in, it’s easy to unwind, relax and get started. Enjoy the gallery below to see what the office is like. 


Hand sanitizer, HEPA air filtration system, extra air purifiers, air conditioning, essential oils, restrooms, optional face shields that let you breathe and protect you. . 


A floor to ceiling rain forest type view of the trees outside a tinted glass window. Soothing art and fixtures, glass and mirrors, reclining feet up sofa, HomePod and more. 


Velvet drapery, candles, incense, essential oils, a place to put your purse, cool fans and your own private exit when you’re ready to leave.

As a behavioral strategist, I take a different approach 

I show you how it’s done

 By focusing on what works and  interacting in real time with you and your partner, change happens at an order of magnitude that is significantly greater than traditional methods.

Restore physical and sexual attraction right in front of your partner and get real time feedback on what excites them. 

Whether you’re monogamous, consensual non-monogamists or transitioning from one to there other, I can help.

We get right into it

Your particular situation is extremely sensitive. Your story may be highly specific, graphic or vulnerable. Many people are not equipped to help because their answers come from research and training only rather than real work experience.  

I am your personal advocate and take a warm, empathetic, direct and sensual approach to sex that’s pro-women, pro-men and pro pleasure.  There is no discrimination. 

We don’t waste time

 Like my get-down-to-business podcast, we will be effective, efficient, and to the point.  You will leave your first session with things to apply immediately to help you and your partner shift into a better feeling space. 

Guidance comes in the form of information and exercises you can actually do something with. If anything isn’t clear, I can, with consent,  show you in detail.  

I give away 80% of my content

I create content that lasts a lifetime, not click bait intended for single use consumption.  The podcast is 100% free and is better than other  paid content available today.

 You will learn more from one of my free episodes than paying someone else.  The podcast is always growing and evolving to handle and address client specific needs. 

I invested in Tari’s is coaching package as a gift to myself and my wife as we were nearing our anniversary.  When we met with Tari for the first time, we were a bit anxious and uncertain of what he would ask and how we would feel. Within the first five minutes we were put at ease and could tell that Tari was a classy, heart-centered individual who has a passion for helping couple’s experience closeness and connection at the highest level!
My wife and I began to share stories of how we met, our history of ups and downs and our questions. Tari was a gentleman and guided the conversation into areas that we could explore safely while still touching on topics that we otherwise would never have had the boldness to do by ourselves. I have experienced many more coaching sessions since then and will continue to do so as I am seeing amazing results in my marriage.  
Now my wife and I continue to discover things about each other that we’ve never known, even after years of marriage and multiple children.  I am finding that we are getting that spark back into our marriage that we had before we had children. 
I would highly recommend anyone reach out to Tari for an open, candid conversation to see how they can improve their Closeness connection within their current relationship or to ready themselves for an emotional connection when they welcome in their next romantic relationship.

Evan, San Diego

Have better and more exciting sex tonight!

THIS is Not your average coaching session

Do you feel confident about satisfying your partner, touching him or her or touching yourself? Do you enjoy having sex with them or could things use a little work?   Can you move things to the next level, stay calm with eyes open and build sexual tension? 

 What if you could actually ask for what you want and express your desires easily to your partner in session so that once you go home, you know exactly what to do next? What if you could learn, through safe, friendly, playful guidance exactly what turns your partner on and what to do next, right before your eyes? 

With full consent and respect from all parties we can discover what excites each of you quickly and respectfully so that you can apply it later that night.  I know the questions to ask and the appropriate guidance to offer to open your partner right up and make things sizzle. 

Intimate and Sensual Translation

I heard the words they said but what the hell did they mean?

How quickly do things turn into an argument or go sour? Are you trying to speak to her logically about why you’re upset but she only winds up feeling attacked and reacts emotionally?   This one issue alone is responsible for the break down of communication between men and women in relationships.

 As your Closeness Coach, I have a rare ability to put into words that which your partner often simply does not know how to say. I can express things to you both in a way that you can hear and do something about.  That means real change, in as early as your first few sessions. 

I can mediate ultra sensitive subjects and be a third set of eyes and ears without the escalating and bickering 

Men don’t often speak subtlety and women don’t often speak logically… but I speak both languages and I will help you when your words get lost in translation. 


Support through betrayal and cheating

Do you stay or do you go?

Have you discovered some intimate texts or communication from someone outside of your relationship? Or is it an affair that has been going on for year and the lying has devastated you to the very core of your being? Before we can even begin to restore what has been damaged we need to discover what’s true. Do YOU want to stay together? Are you open to restoring real trust with your partner?

These answers may seem obvious, but they aren’t. Not when love, family, status, lifestyle and children are involved. I will personally help you discover what is real and what is true so that you can make choices that serve your relationship. 

The root cause


As men we rarely have a safe space to get real help.  We often can’t speak about why we’re hurting and that leads to not getting our own needs met and fearing our partner.

As women you often caring wounding that can make sexual play or opening up feel impossible. What you both want really matters and you can  can get your needs met in a way that doesn’t feel compromising.

Through gentle and fun exercises in session we can flesh out what needs to be healed so that you can explore more with your partner. 



Heightened communication and presence

The way you hold and carry yourself in intimate situations so you are heard and felt while also being sensitive to your partner's needs is essential. We can transform your body language so that you feel more confident and sexually receptive as a partner.

Feel deeply into your partner

Not with your brain but with your whole body. Not calculating and methodical, but open and receptive. Using your senses to feel, sense, touch, and taste your partner, I'll teach you all about the domain of the erotic. It doesn't flourish in the suffocating space of control, knowing everything about your partner and having security... it needs room to breathe.

Sensual, sensitive touch

Teasing. Playing. Starting slow then ramping up to the perfect intensity that drives your partner wild... Learn about healthy dominance and aggression, or how to be delicate and soft. Learn to know when to amp it up and when it's just enough.

Powerful sexual chemistry

When your partner feels deeply aroused by you simply by being in their presence, no words are required. Yes, I can teach you eroticism and how to spark great chemistry!

Safe and closed or open and adventurous?


Maybe you want to transition from being poly to being monogamous or vice versa. Perhaps you want to go from casual dating to something more intense or you need help with a conscious uncoupling.  Closeness offers powerful solutions and communication strategies to make sure everyone is feeling heard, valued and most importantly, satisfied.  

Quality of Life

Gourmet cooking, interior design, luxurious minimalism and life coaching

Mens work uncorked


As men, when you are hurting, or angry, where do you go?  When you need to cry or need to deal with your fury, that’s when you bring it to your coach, not your partner!

You do this BEFORE having a conversation with her.  Learn what it truly means to be her rock without reprising your emotions  so her attention remains zeroed in on you and only you.  

 Life is not exclusively about  keeping her happy.  That’s her job.  It’s about learning to show up as the man you want to be while making time for the other areas in your life that matter, such as your health and wellbeing.   

We do this in a way that keeps her coming back for more without losing yourself in the process.