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Watch the Closeness Coaching speak for itself as you gain more confidence, get unstuck, discover what you've been craving and become more intimate with yourself or your partner.



Hand sanitizer, 3 HEPA air filtration systems, safe distance, air conditioning, humidification, warmth, high air quality and restrooms.


A rain forest style view of nature with a striking floor to ceiling glass window. Soothing art, large gemstones, warm, adjustable mood lighting, a plush sofa, nature sounds, pillows, and more. 


Velvet drapery, candles, floor to ceiling mirror, essential oils, a place to stow away your purse, and your own private exit when you can’t wait to go explore what you learned!  Closeness Coaching is an experience.




$ 250

Per hour. No commitment
Up to 2 hours
  • Enormous value comes from your very first session


$ 200

Per hour
No commitment
  • Requires one in person visit. Paid in advance as needed.


$ 125

Every half hour

Book 30, 60, 90, 120 min sessions
  • Pay as you go, come in as needed. Includes 5 minute grace period to settle in.


$ 225

Per hour when you commit to 4 sessions: $900 one time investment
  • Four 1 hour sessions or two 90 minute plus one 60 minute sessions

A $100 deposit is required to secure all appointments over the phone.
Full deposit goes towards your session fee.
All cancellations or rescheduling must be done 36 hours in advance to not lose your deposit.
Payment: Cash, Venmo, ApplePay, CashApp and all major credit cards

Closeness coaching needs to be experienced: 

Tari is THE BEST! I had been researching premarital counseling and intimacy coaching when I discovered Tari’s Closeness podcast. I was immediately hooked and thrilled to find out he offered in-person coaching. From the first communication Tari was welcoming, proactive in accommodating. My husband and I both look forward to our sessions, whether its a couples sessions or one on one. Tari has a superpower in translating my thoughts into a language my husband can understand. He has been able to dissect so many issues, anxieties and behaviors and then transform them with his exercises and expertise. We have been able to work through heavy issues (and comical issues) but always leave his office feeling happy and closer than ever!

Working with Tari has been the best investment in our marriage and myself!

Abi Gault, San Diego



Often clients who have gone through traditional forms of therapy, sex therapy, psychotherapy and marriage and family counseling, report back that the advice they received was rather general or bland when it comes to the granular detail that intimacy requires. I personally think therapists are a wonderful asset for our mental and emotional health, especially when seeing one on your own. But there are some subjects that may be better suited for…someone like me. 

You can share your deep, intimate, sexual or private thoughts, needs, fantasies, desires and truths  without fear of judgement or overwhelming the listener. I can help you get through subjects that you have never verbalized to another person outside your relationship, or perhaps even at all. It’s amazing what getting it out in the open can do to help you move towards a decision. 

 In session, I read the room, use language that you’re comfortable with and guide you and your partner in a respectful, sensual way that allows transformation happen the NIGHT of your first appointment. 



You heard what she said but whaT DO YOU DO NOW?

How quickly do things turn into an argument or go sour? Can you help her transition from being flustered to aroused? Are you trying to speak to her logically about why you’re hurt but she winds up feeling attacked and reacts with negative emotion or resentment?  This one issue alone is responsible for so much pain between men and women.

 As your Closeness Coach, I have a rare ability to put into words that which your partner often cannot.  

I am your sexual translator. 

I can express things in a way that they can hear and apply.  Finally! You will say to yourself.    I can mediate ultra sensitive subjects, say the words you never could, bring up and navigate topics that are too hot for the home and be  a third set of eyes and ears without the escalating and anxiety.

Men don’t often speak subtlety and women don’t often speak logically… but I speak both languages fluently.  

When your words get lost in translation. I am your man.



 First, we talk and get acquainted. Then, by safely and sometimes playful offering you and your partner the opportunity to interact in real time with my guidance, you begin to witness an experiential change that happens at an order of magnitude greater than traditional talk only methods.

By engaging and interacting with each other in safe but suggestive ways, you’ll begin to restore emotional and sexual attraction as well as chemistry, right before your eyes. Get real time feedback and coaching on what excites them, shuts them down, opens them up or turns them on in a safe, soothing space. All interactions are optional, consent based and very effective.  Talk only sessions are always an option and it’s always how we begin each session.



 Like my get-down-to-business podcast, it does not take long to see results. You will leave your first session with a lot of new knowledge and skills.

Guidance comes in the form of information and exercises you can apply as soon as you walk out the door. If something isn’t clear, we can, with everyone’s full consent, show you how to get the result you’re looking for by modeling it, explaining it, or demonstrating it on the manikin.   

I am your personal advocate.  I take a warm, direct and sensual approach to intimacy that’s pro-women, pro-men, pro-individual and pro-pleasure.  There is no discrimination.


When coming in to share the most intimate parts of your life, it’s important to know what does not happen in session. Let’s face it, we’re talking about exciting or sometimes painful emotions around sex and intimacy. It’s ok for things to get a little spicy. That is the point after all. It’s alright if you get excited, or find yourself suddenly aroused and turned on for your partner. This means what we’re doing is working! 

However, to be clear: no one gets undressed and no one is engaging in sexual acts. It’s a clean, safe and sanitary place. 

You may touch, or kiss one another. You might remove a jacket or sweater if you’re feeling warm, but we keep it classy, at your comfort level and in good taste. 


Do you stay or do you go?

Have you discovered some intimate texts or communication from someone outside of your relationship?

Or is it an affair that has been going on for years and the lying has devastated you to the core of your being?

Before we can even begin to restore what has been damaged, we need to discover what’s true.  Do you actually want to stay together? Are you open to restoring trust with your partner?

These answers may seem obvious, but they aren’t easy to answer. Not when love, family, status, lifestyle and children are involved. I will personally help you discover what is real and true so that you can make choices that serve your relationship or I can help separate you in a safe and respectful way. 


First, discover what is missing

The way you hold and carry yourself in intimate situations matters and exploring body language is key for success with your partner. But we will likely need to back up a bit to find out where the pain points are.

Do we need to unlayer some bad, unnecessary or old habits? Are there things you're saying or doing that are hindering closeness with your partner?
How can you help her feel heard, validated and understood, in an attractive, confident way? We can transform your dialogue, emotional skills and presence so that you feel like a more confident and receptive partner. She needs to feel you as a man and feel safe with you before opening up.

Click the heading above to learn more

Genuinely connect with your partner

We think this part takes hours but in my office it can be done in seconds. Connection. Not with your brain but with your energy and intention. Not calculating and logically, but with presence and intention. How's your breathing? Your eye contact? Using your senses to feel, sense, touch, and savor your partner, I'll teach you all about the domain of the erotic and how to fan the flames of desire.
Eroticism can't flourish in the suffocating space of control, silliness or overbearing dominance, I'll teach you how to let the situation breathe and open up.

Explore with sensual, or connected touch

Teasing. Playing. Exploring. Does she like the build up or for things to move quickly? Most women want to start slow then ramp up to the perfect intensity that drives your partner wild. I teach healthy confidence, assertion and sexual leadership as well as how to dial it back when needed. Learn to read your partner so you know what style of connection she needs most.

Click the heading above to get a taste

Follow through and move forward

When your partner feels deeply aroused by you, simply by being in your presence, no words are required. You have built powerful chemistry. Take what you've learned and enjoy the fruits of your labor at home for a hot evening together. Yes, I chemistry can be learned or relearned. Yes I can teach you how to harness it.

Contrary to what many believe, chemistry can be created from nothing. Click the link in the heading to listen to the podcast.


SO What does this CLOSENESS guy know anyway?

Let’s talk about the pink elephant in the room: I am a man, helping women get in touch with exactly what they may want or need sexually, and I facilitate that journey.  At first you might be unsure or skeptical. I get it. I encourage you to read through the countless reviews on Google, Yelp, Facebook, Audible and Apple Podcasts that other women have shared. It’s not easy to share our intimate stories publicly, so the fact that these women have, speaks volumes. 


 Indecisiveness is, often a part of female nature. So is not knowing yourself or wanting to know yourself better.  Many women want and expect a man to just know.  Know what to do, know how to lead, know what excites her.  

It is not easy to communicate to your partner how exactly to be a better or more dominant or sensual lover. Women generally cannot teach their partner the emotional or sexual intelligence piece that’s missing from so many relationships and they don’t want to. 

If that sounds a little like you, then we can do some good work together. I am well versed in traditional and LGBTQ relationships and can handle all level of desires with regards to BDSM and “regular” sexual interactions.

Sometimes women carry wounding or pain that makes sexual play or opening up feel difficult. You want to get closer and want to open up to your partner but your body shuts down or you get stuck in your head. I know you don’t want to feel that way anymore and we can help get your needs met in a way that doesn’t feel compromising.  It is possible to work through these issues in a gentle way that gets results! It’s even possible to do it playfully or in a fun and charming way that makes you smile, often without getting triggered.



If you’ve been involved or are currently involved in the sex worker industry, such as Only Fans, Fansly, Many Vids or pornography, I have the experience to help you navigate your intimate or romantic life. 

If monogamy doesn’t feel right for both of you I’ve got the expertise and wisdom to make transitions easy and sometimes even fun. 

Maybe you want to move from being poly to being monogamous or the other way around. Perhaps your work has you feeling shut down or turned off to real-life intimacy and you want to waken that part of you up again. Maybe your choice of partners has been less than ideal and you want to learn to be treated right while still getting your sexual needs met. If you have a partner, maybe you’d like them to understand you or your work better in a healthy way…  The possibilities are endless to help get you back to feeling safe, valued and satisfied.  

Take your partner from from being bored and neutral to authentically aroused and well taken care of...

Women are very receptive when you love them and treat them the right way. Often we are convinced that you need years, or hours of work to make things better. But if both partners are open to it, I can help you shift into a better feeling place within minutes. 



As men we rarely have a safe space to get real help.  We often can’t speak about why we’re hurting and that leads to not getting our own needs met and fearing our partner. I’ve got a remarkable ability to help you get it out, even if it is hard at first, so that you too can get what you need. The world often doesn’t understand an emotional man.

As men we are also expected to know. Know how to please her, seduce her, read her, love her and of course, have all of her pleasure zones perfectly mapped out. But what if you, like most of us, never got the map or learned how to do this of this? Where do you go for help? Closeness gives the necessary guidance to help get her turned on by YOU and YOUR touch, in REAL time, so that you can be more effective and powerful in the bedroom.

Through respectful and tasteful guidance, communication and experiences, you will go home with new skills to be more emotionally available and responsive and more on the first night of your appointment together. 

How will you know it works? Because you’ll watch her respond favorably to you, right before your eyes. 

Sex, love, passion, intimacy, communication, connection… it’s a learned set of skills and does not have to be as daunting as you’ve made it out to be. If you are the kind of man who can put his ego, or “alpha” mentality to the side, I’ve got some great surprises in store for you that you’re going to love. If you can be  open to learning a new skill, and willing to put in the work, you will  have a partner who respects you more and wants to follow your lead. 

 So you learn to be a better lover and a better man in the process. Life is not about doing whatever it takes to keep her happy.  That’s her job.  But keeping her coming back  to you for more and more intimacy… fantasizing about you, getting wet in your presence… these things also matter in successful, long term or short term relationships. 

 Learn to be the man you want to become.