Deep listening and oral sex part 2: How to go down

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To get anywhere with your partner, we must first accept that both men and women are not mind readers. We can be very intuitive and sensitive, but it’s destined to fail when we expect someone to just know what turns us on. Since most of us think ourselves to be unique beings or “special and like no one else,” it follows that we can’t expect our partner to know right off the bat what our “special” needs are and what makes us tick.

After we establish why it’s a pitfall for women to expect a man to know everything about what turns her on, we’ll discuss technique for going down on her and explain why it’s important to not try too many things at once. Here, presence is required more than ever.

Also, what kind of language do you use when speaking about each others bodies? What about when talking about about sex? Taking a moment to figure out what kind of language turns you on can go miles to heating things up for both of you.

We conclude with some interesting positions to experiment with and shed some light on why it’s important for a woman to not only know what she looks like down there, but also how she tastes.


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