How to say “I’m not interested”

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Have you ever been accused of playing games or not being up front? Most of us struggle with three simple words:

I’m not interested.

This one sentence alone can save you time and heartache. If we’re being honest with ourselves, a lack of response to advances from a potential partner can easily be interpreted as lack of interest. That’s true maybe half of the time.

Other times we really are interested but are just horrible communicators. In reality, rather than saying yes or suggesting a different time to meet, we respond to invitations we are interested in with our “physical location!” This is entirely useless to your date.

When someone asks you out and the only thing you say is, “I’m in the shower,” “I’m at work,” or “Im at the beach,” not only are you speaking in sentence fragments and keeping things in a state of limbo, but you’re ruining your chances of them asking you out again. You are also shutting the person down in a very manipulative way whether you mean to or not. Let us help you Get Closer to someone you care about by leaving this toxic behavior behind and learning how to either say, I’m not interested, or I can’t today, but I’d love to…tonight, tomorrow, the next day etc.

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