Are you guilty of telling people you don’t want to waste time? It’s a nasty, demoralizng expression that implies anyone who isn’t the one, or who isn’t going to give you something you want, is of no use to you. Telling someone who is pursuing you or sharing their love with you that they are wasting your time has the opposite effect of achieving closeness. It devalues others and is hurtful. We say our time has been “wasted,” and yet most of us waste incredible amounts of time stringing other people along by neither committing or bringing the relationship to a close. That or we waste time on SnapChat and Netflix.
Sometimes we continue to sleep with people who we don’t really care about. Other times we keep people in our lives who we know are toxic for us out of conveneince. Other times still, we lie to ourselves about breaking up with the famous, “I don’t want to hurt them” line when in reality we’re too cowardly to do what has to be done.
If you don’t know where you stand in your relationship, whether you’re in the beginning stages, the middle or end, you’ll want to hear this.