Luliana F
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WOW!!! If you need to get help in person that’s fully tailored to your own individual needs, Tari is very easy to connect with, extremely prompt, professional and compassionate. Tari is the personification of “common sense” and nowadays common sense is not so common. Seeing him in person makes a world of difference. Then there is this podcast. I enjoy it immensely! It’s extremely easy to find yourself immersed in listening to Tari! He covers universally relevant subjects so directly and in such a down to earth, compassionate manner. He has a fresh, simple and elegant approach to human relationships and beyond. Everyone can find help or learn something new by listening to the Closeness Podcast. I hope I have ignited your curiosity either to contact Tari directly for Closeness Coaching or at the very least to tune in right away to the podcast! Happy Listening!
Lisa C
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Tari’s Voice has become a soothing, wise and experienced friend. A touchstone of deep life experience, conversations of sincere respect of both sexes, thoughtfulness and a truly balanced point of view that I believe remarkably represents both male and female behaviors, thoughts, feelings and experiences uncannily well. Tari is a gifted thinker and speaker. He has a rare and important message and as this podcast reaches more and more people it will no doubt impact so many lives and relationships in such profound meaningful ways. Listening has made me question and reassess so much in my relationship with my husband. Tari has encouraged me to re-ask myself, “What do I need from my partner?” “What turns me on?” “What qualities do I admire and respect a man?” What specific things aren’t working for me now and what can I identify that I am not clear on an expressing? All vital questions to ponder and find answers to if one wants to powerfully create anything such as a fabulous fulfilling relationship with others in life. I feel lucky to have this show in my life and get so excited for new releases. Each one thought-provoking, nourishing and so refreshing.

If you haven’t already, subscribe NOW and get ready to laugh, smile, shift your perspective, ask yourself questions, grow… And in all honesty, probably be really turned on sometimes too 😉
Mandy Paige Bayless
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Tari has helped me, a feminist in the Bay Area, better understand where men are coming from. His perspective on women’s issues is sensitive, open, sympathetic, understanding, and LOVING - but without coddling. His work holds women’s issues with such a balance to men’s issues (and to ACTUALLY LIVING ON THIS PLANET WITH and LOVING men!), which has been really hard for me to find. Go Tari! I’m less afraid of interacting with men when I’m walking down the street, and I’m more confident interacting with the men in my communities, including my dad. If that isn’t social justice and using your privilege to help women, I don’t know what is.

Tari is powerful and strong, but also loving and sweet. I’ve been wanting to work with a male coach for a while, and Tari is the best I could have possibly imagined. He is SO RELATIONALLY SKILLED! I always feel emotionally safe with him. I think working with Tari on literally anything would help me relate to men better, simply because he is so kind and thoughtful and he shows me what to look for in others.

Calls with Tari helped me IMMEDIATELY. I’m 29 and had been experiencing ongoing trauma responses during s*x for the better part of 9 years. After the FIRST SESSION, it DISSIPATED DOWN TO 5%, OR EVEN 0% OF WHAT IT WAS. He gave me suuper easy tips like, “not going home with someone unless I was at least 80% certain that I wanted to be physical with them” and “gently putting my hand in front of my lips if I started to receive a kiss I wasn’t ready for.” Common sense stuff my grandma had been trying to explain to me haha! He also helped me a lot with masturbation stuff. 🙌

Pro-tip and a word of advice: Check out his podcast, “Closeness.” It primed me for the work and I suspect had something to do with the sudden cessation of the panic responses.
Holly W
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My husband found Tari in a very sensitive and crucial time in our relationship. I, having been to many therapists, was skeptical because the others we went to didn’t really do anything to help our situation. However, the second we met Tari, I knew this was going to be different! He has helped our relationship more than any licensed therapist has ever helped us. He is real and phrases emotions and feelings in ways I have never heard them phrased. He gives me words to things I didn’t know I could explain in words which in turn helped me understand myself and strengthen my relationship with my husband. I love how he has helped my husband to open up more about his feelings and most of all, how he has given us multiple ways to look at a situation. Thank you Tari for all that you do for us! I can’t wait to have our session with you tonight!
Briana G
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This podcast came to me at a great time of life. After leaving a 6 year relationship that became very unhealthy I was reintroduced to the dating world. Closeness topics are interesting and I find myself listening to several at a time. I usually come away with a new perspective or an ability to explain something that is important to me with my significant other. Thanks for your podcast Tari!
Chris M
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Tari is the real deal sex coach!! We’ve spent thousands of dollars on relationship and marital coaching. I can tell you without a doubt Tari has it right. The man can take complex, sensitive, and awkward topics and make each party comfortable discussing it. He has made me feel closer to my wife in so many ways in just a few short sessions. We’ve spent so much money on relationship counseling/ coaching in the past, but all we really needed was someone like Tari to spark the love again.

He just has a way to him that is non judgmental and it allows everyone to speak their truth on topics that are awkward and uncomfortable. He can take everything you said and break it down to pieces and help you figure out why you are doing what to do are doing, and all in a non-judgmental way.

If your having trouble in your relationship, give Tari a try, he is one of the best we’ve been to. One piece of advice, engage in the small exercises he asks you and your spouse to go through at his office. It helps you understand your spouse, and it helps Tari figure out / diagnose what’s really going on.
Glenn Paris
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Hi Everyone If you are thinking about hiring CLOSENESS for the services he provides just know he is totally worth it.

I see him as a catalyst which helps us to bring to the surface the latent/inherent skills we already possess.

A one hour called made an enormous difference for my partner and I.

Glenn 💜
Kelly H
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If you are needing an intimate tune up, Tari is your guy. My boyfriend and I sought his services to iron out a few things that seemed to be topics too sensitive for us to delve into on our own, despite the fact that we have excellent communication and a very positive and well functioning relationship. Tari is a wonderful coach that really seeks to validate each person's background, experience and world view in a non-judgmental, affirming way. Even in the first few sessions, his intuition and careful observations were spot on, and he helped my partner and I approach very uncomfortable topics with ease and sensitivity. Tari has given us very concrete steps each time to apply, so my partner and I didn't feel vague or lost about what to focus on, and we could see and feel differences in our interactions immediately.

Also, Tari offers such comprehensive support via his additional podcasts and is always quick to respond with feedback when we have a question or update to share via text or phone. Whether your relationship is on the rocks or just needs a new spark, Tari has the experience and thoughtful consideration to address each person's needs and bring out the best in both partners.
Nia C
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My husband and I were seeking a little guidance in elevating our relationship. It felt a little confusing to know who to turn to. As someone who pretty regularly invests in her wellbeing/professional life, this was something super personal that took some time finding the right person.

Tari was actually the first person we spoke to and we decided to work with him on the spot. It was one of the greatest decisions we made for not only our marriage but our lives, especially during COVID times.

Talking about the details in your relationship, sex life, etc with a stranger can be a scary thing, but I'm so glad we spent the time and money to work through everything with Tari. We spent a total of 4 months together and my husband and I both agree that EVERYONE needs a relationship coach...because think about it, who else teaches you about intimacy? Reach out to Tari if you're debating it, you won't regret it.
Taylor G
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Absolutely love it!! Recently started listening to this podcast and after the first one I was hooked and binge listened to the rest. I fell in love with Tari’s way of speaking, calm demeanor and personality. Tari has a way of discussing uncomfortable yet relatable topics with tactfulness, sensitivity and good taste… not to mention his voice is so soothing and easy to listen to! The relationship advice and provided tools are so sexy and exciting, they make me want to apply them in my own life and relationship. His health and self care advice is inspiring and makes me want to be a better person. Boy does he know what women want, need and desire. Make sure your man listens to it as well. Ladies, I recommend listening to “a sensual meditation” or “Sunday morning” and having a little fun 😉 Thank you for your time in creating such a wonderful podcast! Please keep them coming!!!
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Working with Tari has been such a wonderful experience. I would absolutely recommend his coaching to anyone seeking support in relationships, with physical or emotional intimacy, and generally navigating the waters of love & life.

My fiancé and I met with Tari for premarital coaching recently. With the help of his advice and insight, within just a few weeks we were able to work through sources of conflict that had been unresolved for some time. Additionally, we have had so much growth in communication and deeper connections within our relationship. Tari is professional, compassionate, and easy to talk with about fragile topics. He has a calming presence that puts everyone at ease, and his open-minded perspective enables each person to feel genuinely understood.

I look forward to more sessions in the future, and think the unique experience of this coaching is an incredible gift you can give to yourself & your partner. Thank you Tari!!
Kevin Switzer
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So I will keep this short. A few visits into my sessions with Tari my wife and I are now expecting a baby!!!!! I think that more than says enough.

Due to a life event that I went though recently I have seen quite a few counselors and coaches. Tari is by far my go to choice for numerous reasons. Don't have time to list them all.
Rosemary Reed
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Tari has been a life saver. I appreciate his thoughtfulness and consideration navigating tricky issues. Relationships are not always easy and after working with Tari I feel more like myself than I have in a long time and I am grateful for that.
Kristen Diederich
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I've never met a man who understands women, or relationship dynamics, the way Tari does. From the moment you meet him, you'll be able to tell that there's something different, something deeper, in the way he communicates. His insight and non-judgmental approach make every conversation comfortable--even the ones you might not expect to be. We all need an outside view of ourselves and our relationships from time to time, and you won't find anyone who can provide more valuable guidance than Tari.
Angela Jones
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Ever since my first session with Tari, I felt an ease about his presence and a comfort from his demeanor. His knowledge and attitude provided me an opportunity to express myself in newfound ways. His open-minded, non-judgemental approach is liberating to experience (especially from a man!) and has encouraged me to speak and act more freely about my desires. He truly understands what women really want and knows how to help them reach those goals - big or small. He not only hears your needs, but LISTENS to them too. His skills by far surpass that of any coach I’ve had in the past. 10/10 would definitely recommend.
Prosperous Eyes
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Me and my partner had a wonderful experience with Tari! we got fast results just after one session. Highly recommend for anyone wanting to improve their love life. We are full on ready for another session to release more blockages and dive deeper!
Kimberly G
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Listen to the Closeness podcast to get a sense of Tari’s classy, tranquil style…and you’ll be even more impressed to meet him in person. Tari is able to give direct, specific observations and corrections without ever coming across as anything less than supportive and encouraging. I’ve been grateful to work with Tari and appreciate his calm presence and exceptional communication, evinced through the quality of his precise and thoughtful responses. Being in Tari’s presence reminds one to be in the PRESENT MOMENT – Tari has a gift for making those around him feel valued and present.
Sarah M
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Closeness became my favorite podcast from the first sound of Tari’s soothing voice. He draws you in with auditory pleasure, then stimulates your mind by speaking eloquently and honestly about the topics you’ve been dying to know more about, but too afraid to ask your friends. It’s so refreshing to find a place to get real answers about sex and relationships, without any judgement. I love that the podcast is so inclusive, as Tari speaks to those in all types of relationships (whether you’re single, dating or married) and sexual orientations. Tari is part sex coach, part talk show host and part erotic novel hero. He’s the type of person whose mere presence elevates the people around him, causing them to become more aware, present and relaxed. His voice is soothing, his smile is genuine and his advice is based on both experience and principles that work. Tari is also extremely sensitive to the specific needs of individuals and I find it highly refreshing that as a man, he has a deep understanding of what women want. Through my own conversations and experience with Tari, I’ve felt heard and understood, never judged. I highly recommend connecting with Tari so that he can help you experience more closeness with your partner or partners, and ultimately, a deeper relationship with yourself.
Madona Moussa
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Tari is someone with a lot of knowledge that anyone could benefit from. He has a calm demeanor which makes it easy to talk to him about anything.
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Tari’s vast experience in the realm of relationships, along with his deep understanding of passionate intimate experiences, gives him a rich, tasteful and uncensored view into sparking or renewing your own relationship and sex life on all levels.

This comes through in his words, poise and expertise as well as his ability to see things that others simply cannot. Even the simple act of a walk through a grocery store, while in Tari’s presence, would immediately give you a tangible experience of how to increase your sensual magnetism as man. It is uncanny how women are able to open up to him, and it’s fascinating how well he relates to the opposite gender. Tari is an interesting combination of someone who is both very safe to receive coaching from as a man, while at the same time being able to activate strong sexual excitement within his clients, to help their relationship thrive. I have found Tari to be both impeccable as well as someone who operates from a deep level of courage.
Katherine Cruz
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We went in for one consultation and that really did a lot for both of us. Now we find ourself communicating more and talking to find solutions instead of just being quiet and guessing ourself. Tari will help both side equally and make both side feel heard and that was one of my worries at first but he did a great job!
Evan H
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I invested in Tari’s is coaching package as a gift to myself and my wife as we were nearing our anniversary.
When we met with Tari for the first time, we were a bit anxious and uncertain of what he would ask and how we would feel. Within the first five minutes we were put at ease and could tell that Tari was a classy, heart-centered individual who has a passion for helping couple’s experience closeness and connection at the highest level. My wife and I began to share stories of how we met, our history of ups and downs and our questions. Tari was a gentleman and guided the conversation into areas that we could explore safely while still touching on topics that we otherwise would never have had the boldness to do by ourselves.

I have experienced many more coaching sessions since then and will continue to do so as I am seeing amazing results in my marriage.

Now my wife and I continue to discover things about each other that we’ve never known, even after years of marriage and multiple children. I am finding that we are getting that spark back into our marriage that we had before we had children. I would highly recommend anyone reach out to Tari for an open, candid conversation to see how they can improve their Closeness connection within their current relationship or to ready themselves for an emotional connection when they welcome in their next romantic relationship.
Charmaine Yutuc
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Wow! Tari is amazing! I went in for a first session and I immediately felt comfortable in Tari's presence. He is very calm, gentle, compassionate, understanding, knowledgeble, nonjudgemental, honest, warm and has a comforting presence. It's fascinating how he can fully understand what message you're trying to get across and be spot on and so intuitive. He is able to break down complicated situations in a way that is easy to comprehend and give you tools that are easy and effective to follow.

Very down to earth and knows how to connect with the younger crowds(20 somethings) and able to understand and navigate situations presented to him that are unique to today's generation. If you want to understand men, need help in navigating a relationship, want to learn how to build intimacy, or just plain take charge of your life and be a badass, Tari is your go-to!!

Nothing is off limits, so express your heart out! I felt so relieved after our session and felt like there was finally some clarity and weight lifted off my shoulders, as well as a resolution to my concerns moving forward. I plan on continuing to see Tari for any future counseling! Thank you Tari!!
Kendra C
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So much yes! First off, I love the format of each episode. It keeps me engaged and interested throughout each one. I wanted to say thank you to Tari for offering conversations and experiences about connection and intimacy that are real and raw.

I love that he explores it in a way that’s safe, authentic and makes me think. Thank you for all your insights!
Angela CDeBaca@username
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My fiancé and I love Tari!! We have had 2 meetings with him. We were very skeptical going in but right when we met him we immediately felt comfortable. He is so talented at speaking to both sides and genuinely understanding and solving the issues. We even left our visits feeling enlightened and re energized about our relationship. Would highly recommend to anyone and everyone! ❤️
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This podcast came to me at a great time of life. After leaving a 6 year relationship that became very unhealthy, I was quickly reintroduced to the dating world. Tari’s topics are interesting and I find myself listening to several at a time. I usually come away with a new perspective or an ability to explain something that is important to me with another person.
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The Closeness podcasts dives into conversations most of us will never have, or even think to have, yet are incredibly needed. Sex and intimacy can be polarizing topics, but with Tari they’re an open forum to discover what joys await each individual, should they so desire. The way he approaches both the viewpoints and experiences of both males and females is useful to further understand how we can bring more fulfillment to our sexual partner(s). After each listen, I feel less self-judgement and more openness, and of course, closeness, to myself, my partner, and humans in general. Thank you Tari for sharing your insights and experiences with the world!
Marilia B
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If you are looking for understanding on topics where you never knew who to turn to, Tari is the one. He will never make you feel judged and just completely understands. It is amazing how much understanding he has of us women, our needs and wants. Tari has made such a great impact on how I see and deal with my relationships and the loved ones around me. I am now able to understand aspects of myself I have always struggled with and had already discussed with a previous therapist. Most professionals do not know how to approach the intimate topic so wonderfully as Tari does. He is so professional and at the same time makes me feel so comfortable to talk about anything and everything. Thank you for being so great and for continually helping me understand myself.
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LOVE because I totally relate to these topics and they are VERY informative and NECESSARY for anyone who wants growth towards CLOSENESS. We all have different opinions but Tari does the best job at eliminating as much bias as possible and opening us all up to infinite, helpful, elevated perspectives. Just listen to it. You'll feel really intrigued. This is real life closeness help.
Brandon P
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Tari is phenomenal at conversation, advice, and guidance on all things intimate. His counseling services — and Tari himself — feel safe and comfortable. It’s not weird or a big deal to talk to him about any topic. You won’t feel judged or odd. In fact, you’ll feel the opposite! Him and his services are empowering and liberating.
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I love the podcasts on Closeness! They are fun, engaging and perfect for any person who thinks they know everything about sex, hahaha! Just when you think you know it all Tari will chanllge this belief along with many others about sexuality. His podcasts always show both sides of the “subject stick,” I believe he calls it, and provides multiple insights on all topics discussed. He surely speaks from experience and has gained my trust as an intimacy expert/trustworthy coach in just one podcast (which I’ve listened to twice actually. If you’re curious check it out it’s called Deep Listening, The Oral Sex Edition. An in depth exploration of how to go down.
Stephanie G@username
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I met Tari in person, and from the first time we spoke, I felt like I could share with him the most intimate of things without judgment. I can honestly say he has made a meaningful impact in my life through his podcasts, and even more so through our one on one interactions, which frankly, have been some of the most meaningful and authentic one on one interactions I’ve ever had with a human being. Tari offers a judgment free zone–and I can’t stress that enough–to discuss and process any number of issues. Among other things, he has personally helped me (and continues to help me) overcome deeply rooted insecurities and their effects in my relationships. He is so truly gifted in his ability to listen, understand, and advise. If you’re struggling in relationships of any kind, from sex to self-love. Go see Tari, you won’t regret it!
Brenna D
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Tari challenges me to think deeper about insecurities and behaviors I engage in subconsciously, by bringing them to awarenesses so that positive change can occur. He creates a safe space, allowing vulnerability to discuss intimate or difficult topics. He is truly interested in listening and discovering with you on your journey of personal growth and is gifted in knowing the right questions to ask. I often struggle finding the right words to express feelings and his exceptional use of language allows freedom for those thoughts to be articulated more clearly. Tari is a wonderful person to nurture personal growth so that you can strengthen your relationships with others. Both our conversations and listening to this podcast have allowed for some much needed reflection. His communication is encouraging, his presence is safe and conversation enlightening.
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This podcast has had a profound impact on my intra-personal and inter-personal experiences. I turn to these episodes whenever I feel a need for guidance as I go through my life and Tari never lets me down. In three words: Smooth, like butter.
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Sessions and episodes with Tari are one of my favorites! He is so insightful and thoughtful. He takes the listens on a journey with him as you learn and explore ideas with some very smart and knowledgeable people.

I find this podcast very helpful when looking at the relationships in my life and I am so thankful for the work Tari is doing.

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Closeness coaching

Real sexual guidance to help you and your partner get to a better and more erotic place.  Full support through navigating different sex drives, approaches, attachment styles, and different ways of getting aroused. Learn to successfully navigate betrayal, breakups, misunderstandings. Most importantly, learn to have better sex immediately.  In office, in home or virtual sessions available.  


Why I'm Different

With your consent, I offer safe, real world demonstrations, guidance and support to help your partner initiate, advance and be more successful through all the stages of intimacy.  I help you immediately step back into your sexual roles, and articulate what you want, verbally and non verbally, from the very first session.